Sexual Health :: Delayed Or No Ejaculation (53 Years)

Me 53 year old very healthy. No physical problems, all tests perfect, excellent shape with good testosterone count. Was married for 22 years. Divorced for 2 years.

Have delayed ejaculation and need advice and help if you have experience here.

During my 22-year marriage I never had enough sex. I had to masturbate once or twice a week to relieve myself. However, I did not have any issues with getting erect or with ejaculating

Towards the end I did notice that it used to take longer to ejaculate and I was never a heavy porn watcher. In addition, I can't remember ever being able to *** from oral sex or a hand job. Most of the time I would enjoy it but needed penetration to ejaculate.

My divorce was terrible psychologically. I did request the divorce but my ex-wife is just mean and vindictive and the process has been downright hell.

Since separation I started to date women. I noticed that many times, in fact, most times I could not ejaculate. No matter how long we made love, I could not ejaculate. This may seem wonderful as I can go for almost as long as humanly possible, but it is like a curse as you never get the pleasure of *******.

I actually went through a period (post-separation) where I had difficulty getting erect and keeping an erection but that is no longer an issue anymore. I have a wonderful girlfriend for 1 year. We have sex all the time and any time I want. She treats me well and makes me feel like a man.

I am relatively convinced this is a mental thing and I just don't know what steps to take alone and with my partner to ease back into ejaculating. It is getting easier during penetration sex, but it seems we get focused on if I *** or don't It is really exhausting and a bummer and frustrating. I can always ejaculate from masturbating and I don't need to squeeze really hard, watch crazy porn.. I am pretty convinced it is somehow in my head I am not letting go, and don't know the path to do this.

Another example is that I have shy urination. What is this? Well if there are other people in the room at a public toilet for example, as hard as I may have to urinate, it won't come out. How did I cure this? I simply convince myself that I am in the room alone when I am in the public bathroom. If my subconscious is convinced enough it works! I am able to pee. So in that instance it is 100% in my mind. I am amazed at how this works pretty much all the time, I simply act that there is no one in the room and I can pee.

I am thinking that I need something like this in order to ejaculate during intercourse or oral sex or with a hand job. My girlfriend is there to help with anything that can be practiced with a couple.