Pregnancy :: Circumcision - Get It Or Regret It?
Jul 13, 2014
When your son was born did you get your son circumcised and later regretted it? Did you have another son and opted NOT to circumcise him?
I have one boy and he is circumcised, then a few days post circumcision I deeply regretted it seeing how it looked as it was healing. After 5 mos it healed, but he did experience penile adhesion which I had to gently pull the skin back over the course of 2 weeks so as not to cause him great discomfort. I felt bad for having him circumcised during that time, but after that all was well. My sister had gone through the same thing with her son, and we corrected the penile adhesion before it was completely fused. Now my dilemma is, I'm greatly concerned about going through this again if I should have another son (my gut feeling tells me I'm having a boy) and I dont want to get him circumcised, however my husband feels differently. And I told him to research the pros and cons so he can make an informed decision. Instead of just saying "it looks better".
Does anyone else have at least two boys, one who is circumcised and one who isn't?
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I would like to share with the community that unless your Bartholin cyst is a real problem in your life, don't do it. From my own experience, and from what I have read from others on forums and sites, it seems pretty safe to say that many women who have had the surgery regret it. Ladies, it is not worth the pain. Many doctors completely play down the surgery and pass it off as being minor with little pain, fast recovery.
Here is my story: I had a small to med. size cyst, not bothersome at all..it was just there. I went to my yearly exam and the doc said, let's remove that. He explained that is was a simple, common surgery. So, I went in to remove it , expecting to be able to work the next day (ha!). I was given some shots of anesthesia, and then some more, during the surgery I felt pain...was administered more shots. I became completely nervous and entered panic, pleading for something to calm me down. Well, I went through it and I noticed there was a lot of blood and the doctor asked the nurse to help me up, the doctor left the room and I was bleeding so much, like all over the place. To make a long story short, the doctor found my out in the hospital hall and rushed me into surgery again (this time they put my ass to sleep). Come to find out, there was a vein behind the cyst that got cut during the surgery. Later on through research I discovered that this could cause the need for a blood transfusion! Thank goodness I didn't. I completely regret the surgery.It's been 8 days and I still can't drive or sit with both cheeks down in a chair, I'm still walking funny and my vagina looks weird. I love to run and swim and I would NEVER EVER have done this if I had known it was this painful and debilitating. So girls, unless it is a complete necessity and it is totally ruining your life, don't do it. And for those of you who do do it, demand an ultrasound to make sure there aren't any veins behind it, its your right. A lot of veins run through this area and if the doc cuts a vein, its a bad surprise and there is a chance you would need a blood transfusion if you loose too much blood and the doctor isn't prepared. Oh, and I was prescribed tylenol with codeine for the pain every 12 hours...I ended up in the emergency room the next day so they could give me something much stronger. Today, day 8 I didn't have to take any pain meds, but I still can't work/drive/sit normal/walk normal.
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The fireworks went off, its new year. I've never felt so alone and depressed. I'd been thinking about my life, and I can't stand it anymore.
Is it true that there can never be a second chance in life? I made mistakes and I regret it; I want to start anew, but life just doesn't seem to work that way. When a part of your life crumbles, the rest will follow. I am a college dropout since August, and my family just gives me hell. They mock me in every chance given to them, stating how useless and helpless I am wasting my life, and everything that I do is bad, useless and stupid according to them. My friends look down on me, and many of them take joy in my condition now.
I don't know who to turn to, or who to trust anymore. Everyone just seems to be against everything I do. I don't know how to pick myself up again, since everything I do is judged. I am very very sad inside, but I can't even cry. No one will pity me.
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I had a Tubal Ligation about 10 months ago, when my was born. It was my decision, my husband just went along with whatever I decided. I think I decided to quick and will possibly have it reversed, but the cost is so high and there are no guarantees The problem is I don't know why I am so sad I did this. I've felt this way since they placed my newest angel in my arms. Does anyone have this feeling of Major Regret?
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I am wondering if anyone has had an elective colectomy and regretted it.
I am 27, and have had ulcerative colitis for 6 years (5 years diagnosed). I have 2 young children, work part time and study at an online university.
i have been on sulfasalazine since being diagnosed and used codeine to manage the pain during flares. While pregnant with both my children my colitis was basically non existant and other that the standard discomforts of pregnancy I felt fantastic, after each pregnancy however, my colitis has become worse.
Since the birth of my daughter 10 months ago I have been in a near constant flare. A good day for me is around 10 bowel movements, all ranging from soft to water, and very painful.
i am currently dependent on prednisone to keep my symptoms at a minimum and the codeine is no longer helping with the pain. I recently was given 6MP to try, however I had a reaction to it and am unable to continue taking it. I have been told that this limits the remaining treatment options available.
i am strongly considering having an elective total colectomy in order to rid myself of the disease for good. I want my life back, I want to be able to enjoy my children and my husband, i want to be able to give them all my time rather than being stuck in the loo or curled up in pain. I want to be able to socialise again and enjoy my work. Basically i want my life back.
Every story I have read for people who have had a colectomy wish they had done it sooner. I really want to know if anyone regrets it?
I will be seeing my dr again in a couple of week so I am keen to arm myself with as much information as possible prior to that appointment.
My husband is very supportive and agrees that it is probably be the best option for us. When i spoke to my mum about it she yelled at me about it being a stupid idea, but she doesn't see the struggle I have everyday.
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for moms who've had there baby boy circumcised... was he in any kind of pain after? if so, for how long? or was he perfectly fine?
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Has anybody else thought about getting the baby circumcised? And what are your thoughts and opinions on this topic?
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So just wondering if you ladies are having boys and if you are going to get them circumcised or not.
My husband and I are both 100% on board to have our son done. However when the topic is brought up some people act so surprised. Personally I don't care what others think ... just wondering what the general feel is on this board.
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Is there any other way around a circumcision?
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I estimate most of women do not care if a man is circumcised or not. After all, what do they fall in love with... the man or his penis? In my opinion women who claim that circumcision is better, who seem to prefer circumcision are insecure about their femininity and think that circ is a way of leveling the playing field.
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I was diagnosed with both phimosis and HPV, so my urologist told me to get circumcised.
Being that HPV is something serious (an illness, after all) and that my foreskin always troubled me and my sex life in one way or another (I felt weird about how it looked and intercourse was uncomfortable and painful if not impossible), I decided to undergo surgery.
Today is my tenth post-op day.
I'm very anxious about how things are developing and what will be my sex life's future from now on. I've been dealing with so much stress, lately, due to this, not to mention that it was the first time I ever stepped on a clinic (I'm almost 30 years old, by the way).
There are certain things I already knew I should expect after the surgery, such as swelling, lymph discharge, purpleness, sprinkle-like pee, etcetera, which all subsided before the first week. I even went to my urologist's office and he checked me and said that everything was going ok.
I left his office without the piece of gauze I would put on every time I came out from the shower, and it did felt quite uncomfortable walking down the street. And it still does at some point. And that's one of the things that freak me out.
For instance, I'm just unable to figure out what's annoying me the most; I don't know whether it is the rubbing of the glans or the tip's slit against my underwear, or the small bruise I've got on the sulcus, or the stitches, or everything altogether! What drives me crazy it's not the fact that I'm going through a typical circumcision post-op, but the idea that everything will feel and stay and bother me this way forever!
I sometimes regret not having a foreskin anymore (although getting rid off HPV was somewhat worth it). But it's just that I feel so awkward and frustrated... It's not only my penis what feels weird, but also my movements: they are silly and limited and unnatural. I can't seem to walk straight and at a reasonable speed. Sitting down, standing up, such basic tasks are now almost impossible to accomplish.
I think of sex, or even masturbation, how will they be in a few weeks or months... And I feel so hopeless about that.
I mean, will my glans ever become desensitized enough to allow me to walk, act and move normally? It already started to shed (which doesn't scare me, since I expected it to happen), but I keep wondering if that has something to do with keratinization or anything like that.
The stitches sometimes hurt (specially during erections at night, which I also expected), but I'm not sure if they have something to do with swelling (I can't tell if my penis is swelled; it does look significantly different from what it was, but still I can't figure out what should be its final shape) or with the awful sensation of having something folded around my glans, like if I still have my foreskin half rolled back.
Well, again, I don't want to think about masturbation and sex now, because it isn't time for such things (I even do my best to keep any dirty thought away; and it's not difficult since my libido is currently on the basement, due to my anxiety). But someday stitches will fall apart (I was given those that dissolve on their own; yet, I wonder if they'll stay forever) and I will feel the urge to release myself, at least through masturbation, and I'm scared that I won't know how to handle my new body... Not to mention sex with a partner. What if she is not patient enough or something?
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Im having a boy and I'm unsure whether to have him circumcised or not? Thoughts??
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How do u mommies of boys feel about getting your babies circumcised? I'm getting my son circumcised but I'm very scared because I know he's gonna b n pain and it makes me sad to have to see him crying. How did you guys feel about your baby being circumcised and how was the baby after it?
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I am 20, i am suffering through partial phimosis where i am able to retract my foreskin when its flaccid but cannot do so when its erect. I noticed that i might have short frenulum where it is attached to my foreskin and is attached to the tip of the penis head right where the urethra hole is.
Although i don't suffer any pain while urinating or while erection but it pains trying to forcefully retract foreskin while erect.
I strongly don't want to go for circumcision or surgery. Please help regarding the methods. Are there any creams available in india OTC. I am losing my self confidence, will it create problem during sex even with a condom?
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I have noticed that in the area from a few mm below my circumsision to below my head on the left side there is a bulge. This bulge is a rounded area. The colour is a little lighter at the point which comes out furthest from the rest of my penis. It does not always occur, and can be removed by squeezing the enlarged circular area. When erect it appears normal. I tried pe stretching a few months ago and did feel a sharp pain, then I stopped. I am unsure if it correlated to that. I can not remember exactly when it began. It is not painful. And has been occuring for months. I mastubate once daily. Thank you for your time. 15 male white
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Is it possible for the doctor not to trim the foreskin after a plastibell circumcision and let the foreskin fall off with the ring?
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I don't know who will see this but i need to know: I was given a Circumcision and afterwards I was given something called Instillagel, I want to know what it is and how I use it. Someone explain please?
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I am 19 years old and i had a circumcision due to phimosis 9 days ago.
Some of the stitches are gone and it is not so swollen anymore. I still can't masturbate of course as it hurts.
I got an erection today. I was not fully erected but still.... When i got the erection I saw that my penis was really smaller than it used to be.. I measured it and I found it was 10 cm... Before circumcision I was 16.5 cm.
Will my penis return to its normal size over the time? (6 weeks after the operation) Have something went wrong? Could this be because I am still swollen down there and because I can't get fully erected due to the stitches?
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I`ve been reading about AIDS. Is it true circumcised men cannot be infected at all? I am considering circumcision. Anybody?
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i used to masturbate a lot even after marriage. It helps me not to cheat on my wife because she often comes home tired an just wants to sleep. Now that i have done circumcision it's very difficult for me to masturbate since i dont have the foreskin. i have tried but it hurts and kind of impossible. how best can i continue with my habit after circumcision
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Well I'm 23 and have had this problem for as long as I can remember. I finally went to the doctors and was forwarded to the hospital this week. Seen the doctor there and have been told the best way forward is to have an Circumcision! Now this seems the best way forward as i can't even pull my foreskin back. But since google-ing this topic I have read some really horror stories on Circumcision. I'm from the UK and it's not a very common thing to have done. I really need some advice as to go forward with this as i have the op in 4 weeks on the NHS free.
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