Orgasm :: Woman's Sex-drive/libido In Her 40's - Does It Go Down Or Can It Stay Up?
Sep 15, 2013
I'm a woman who normally has a healthy, strong sex-drive. But I couldn't help from noticing that my sex-drive/lustiness/libido seems to have substantially diminished in the last month or two. On some occasions, instead of enjoying a sexual moment and being completely excited and consumed, I've actually found my mind wandering, feeling a bit bored and not excited. I used to get very aroused when my nipples were touched, but in the past month my nipples now don't seem to have any sensitivity. When they're touched, I no longer feel feelings of arousal. Sex used to be something I used to really look forward to, but now I don't seem to get very lusty and excited. It bothers me that these feelings and sex which used to bring me so much enjoyment and pleasure in my life seems to be gone.
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I have always a big sex drive, way more than my wife and now after 3 weeks of having a vasectomy my drive has dropped considerably! In some ways its nice to not sex on my brain all the time and having to bug my wife for it but now I'm wondering if its permanent! So will it come back?
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I am 58 years old been Venlafaxine for 8 years and have no period for 4 years it really helps my hot flashes, mood but I'm worried about several things . My sexual desires are zero and haven't had sex for a few years my husband is very understanding but it takes it toll. I have no motivation I feel very foggy a lot and sometimes could less about life in general. I would very much like to come off Venlafaxine very much but scared.
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I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. Typically, we will have sex 4-6 times a day when we are able to see each other. Around the 3rd or 4th time I get hard and aroused yet after having vaginally sex for about 15 minutes I all the sudden go soft, and I can't seem to orgasm.
Also, when she wants to have anal sex and I am inside her it feels cold compared to her vagina and I was wondering if that was normal? I also cannot orgasm during anal sex, she can, but I cannot.
The first couple times we have sex, everything is fine, I stay hard the entire time and I orgasm and it's great.
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I asked my doctor to prescribe me Anti-androgen (Provera) to stop libido, but the doctor refused both the psychiatrist and the GP. She told me that there are side effects including major breast growth and loss of muscles, and she also told me that it's against their legislation to prescribe anti-androgen for reasons no other than prostate cancer treatment.
So i decided that i will buy these drugs from online, but they all failed me because they were no other than remedies, and not actual drugs. I think the only option for me is to tell the doctor "I want to become a girl, and that i need anti-androgen and estrogen to grow feminine characteristics to satisfy my depression" or "I nearly rapped a girl out there twice and need anti-androgen or any other luteinizing hormones to kill my libido, lest i end up in jail". I don't want to go to the doctor and ask like i did before saying that i want drugs to kill off libido for religious reasons. Besides, Islam prohibits masterbation. And masterbation is inevitable considering the amount of testosterone in a 21 year old's body.
Is there anybody out there who has successfully been able to convince their doctor to give them drugs to suppress their libido? If yes then please leave a comment i want to know how. It's driving me insane. I need drugs NOW!
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Do you find it hard to get aroused and orgasm? I'm on 112.5mg and I'm having difficulty doing so, is it the same with you guys and does it get any better the longer you take it?
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Just had tubal ligation 5 days ago can i have orgasim and oral sex or will it affect on my recovery ?
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Why isn't there help for us woman in the area of not being able to orgasm or problems with low libido?
I am 55 yrs old and have only enjoyed the experience of what it feels like to orgasm 3 times. first time in 2004 and two more at separate times within the past few years. I think I'm having problems due to the medications i'm taking.
I've been on an anti depressant since 2004 and klonopin to treat my general anxiety disorder. I KNOW for a fact these two are culprits. but when I wasn't even taking these meds I couldn't achieve orgasm. I can't stand it when dr.s say it's all in my head that I can't. that the mind prevents me from experiencing it.
I've had 4 natural births but have had surgical laparotomies 3 times due to one being a total hysterectomy when I was 45 and previous emergency surgery after a mishap from having a routine tubal ligation years before having my hysterectomy. so the nerves have been cut and maybe possibly damaged either from the surgeries or from having the episiotomy from having the vaginal births.
I read that dr.s take SUCH care in performing surgery for men when they have prostrate surgery as not to damage the delicate nerves, but they don't take the same care when they cut the woman for the episiotomy therefore damaging the nerves on the woman which can cause damage to nerves.
there fore we can't FEEL as well as before the surgery.
I feel numb down there most of the time. I asked my family dr for help but he referred me to a gyno. My gyno did hormone tests which showed up all normal levels for my age. I am also taking estrogen since my total hyster. because of having had to go into sudden menopause. let me tell you, I was a BASKET CASE when I wasn't taking the estrogen.
so it helps me significantly. but not in the area I'm writing about here.
I want to know if there is anything that a woman can take to get better blood flow to help achieve orgasm. that's why they say foreplay is SO important. and now I see why this is true. the woman gets blood flow to the vaginal area which is needed and takes at least 15 minutes for this to happen.
My gyno RX'd me some type of hormone but my insurance would not cover the brand name OR the generic form. so I gave up trying. I was on a mission to get this resolved.
I've just accepted that there's nothing that can be done for me. I feel so frustrated and angry at the team of scientists and FDA that doesn't approve medicine for woman. it took them YEARS and multiple attempts only to be denied approval for what they call "the little pink pill" and in studies they found that the pink pill had less side effects than Viagra for men but the FDA still wouldn't approve it.
I am starting to take this personal now. Why on earth won't the fda approve med's for woman for sexual problems? someone told me because they'd be worrying that while the men were at work that their woman would be home and getting into trouble with other men.. lol... ridiculous!
I got to the point where I was taking over the counter male testosterone but it's so expensive. I now am trying an herbal supplement that has been used in other countries for many years called horny goat weed with MACA in it. I found it in the intimacy isle of my pharmacy and it's a lot cheaper than the so called supplements of testosterone.
I think it was progesterone that my Dr. prescribed me that my insurance wouldn't cover.
so I'm wondering what hormone I actually need.
oh! by the way, if you're wondering if the herbal pills I'm taking are working, Ive only been on it a week and I'm not taking the recommended 4 tabs a day. only 2.
I did feel different in my body with sensations, but wasn't able to achieve what I wanted. WHY ISN'T THERE ANY SPECIALISTS FOR WOMAN???? in this area? they would make a FORTUNE helping woman all over the globe.
I think it's time someone from the female population stand up and fight for a change. I would, but I don't know where to begin.
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I've several questions regarding oral sex and the spreading of STIs. (i) If a man can catch an STI like Chlamydia by giving oral sex to a woman, does the STI live in his throat and, therefore, is the only way he can spread Chlamydia by action involving his throat - kissing, giving oral sex etc? In other words, could a man have Chlamydia in his throat and be "clear" in his genitals? (ii) For a woman to catch an STI from giving oral sex to a man, does the man have to ejaculate in her mouth? Or is the act of simply taking his penis in her mouth enough for an STI to spread to her?
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About a week ago I had sex with a female sex worker in Hong Kong (I'm a man).
I had a condom on when she gave me oral, and a different one on when we had normal intercourse. We didn't kiss lip to lip, though I did kiss her skin and nipples. I *did* give her unprotected oral, and stuck my tongue inside some.
This was about a week ago. I've been a bit worried ever since then...I've only had one other partner until this encounter, I'm not normally one to take risks. How concerned should I be?
I gather that the biggest risks would be syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia from the unprotected oral sex, and that HIV transmission would be extremely unlikely even if she were to be infected?
If I get tested, how long should I wait before going, and are there any possible symptoms that I should be on the lookout for? How long would any of those symptoms take to develop? And would it be possible to infect my partner with (normal lip to lip) kissing or vaginal intercourse?
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I'm male 17 years old I masturbate very often and have increased recently, and after ejaculation I have this small stinging pain to the lower right of the abdomen, almost near my hip. This pain goes on and off sometimes during the day on it's own and I don't do anything to it. I do masturbate really often and after masturbating I get this discharge which I think is precum again that stains my underwear and bothers me about 5 mins after orgasm. I just wanted to confirm if this was normal or if It was dangerous.
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Last Friday (16/Sep/11) I had an op to repair an umbilical hernia (overnight stay). On being discharged the nurse gave me a packet of 50 mg Tramadol capsules to ease the pain, although the pain wasn't that bad. I had been walking to the toilet (in hospital) within 4 hours of recovering from the op.
Anyway, I got home on Saturday and what with the fairly long walk from the hospital to the taxi, plus getting in and out of the car, I was starting to feel some twinges, so I took 2 Tramadol. Much later that evening I started to have really weird side effects. They are so difficult to describe. A combination of panic attack, dizziness, extreme fatigue, and difficulty nodding off to sleep. I'd nod off, like one does, then I'd immediately have these images in my head - people I'd seen on TV that day, cars, animals, all jumbled up.
Then I must have fallen asleep for an hour or two only to come awake with a start after having this veritable nightmare of there being someone in the room and when I opened my eyes (in my sleep just before coming awake) there was this extremely tall guy, 9 feet tall, his head was literally brushing the ceiling. Then "he" walked across the room to another bed (my mind thought it was still in the 4-bed unit in the hospital ward) and disappeared! As if in a puff of smoke. And at that point I awoke feeling hot and sweaty.
So those were the last Tramadol *I* was ever going to take, I can tell you. And then, yesterday, Thursday I had severe itching at the surgical wound site. This had nothing to do with the Tramadol I'd taken on Saturday, which must have been out of my system by then. Anyway, apart from the itching there was still a bit of an ache, so I thought I'd take just a single Tramadol capsule.
The itching went; the dull ache went. But this morning, very early, about 04:00am, I awoke feeling anything but refreshed. I had some numb feelings in my hand and thigh, they kept coming and going. I got up at around 05:45 am, make a cup of tea, then suddenly felt very weak. Jittery, fast pulse, zonked. Since then I have just lain on my bed in between going for a short walk and am drinking glasses of water in an attempt to flush this [b:095f76e716]POISON[/b:095f76e716] out of my system and am starting to feel a little better.
Earlier in the week on doctor's recommendation I booked an appointment with the nurse for this afternoon to have the dressing changed and the incision checked (it's a long, vertical cut about 4 inches long; they found two hernias), and in order to save on taxi fares I booked one of the free pick-up buses to take me and bring me back. However, I've just cancelled them and have ordered a taxi instead as I cannot face the lengthy zig-zag route these buses often take as they have to pick up numerous other people. I'll talk to the nurse about Tramadol and see what she says. I don't need any pain killers now and if I still get one or two twinges in the next few days, I shall take only paracetamol if necessary. (Not allowed to take ibuprofen or similar NSAIDs as I have a tendency to gastritis and duodenal ulcer.)
So, I am never going to touch Tramadol ever again and this time I mean it. I would not recommend it to my worst enemy. If some people take it just to get "high" they must be stark, raving mad.
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As the subject says, I seem to have lost the ability to stay hard when I put on a condom. I can perform perfectly when I'm not wearing one but my wife and I really don't want anymore children!! As soon as I put one on, I loose a good 85% of sensation and lose my "mojo".
I have never liked condoms per se but they were always a necessity - I like to stay healthy!! As a younger man the fact they reduce sensation was a good thing to me, I could last longer etc.
This is frustrating the hell out of me (and my wife even more) as how can I be fine without but loose my steam as soon as I put one on?
I am healthy in general for an overweight dude. The only medicine I take is 100mg of sertraline per day.
I am still attracted to my wife so its not that things have gone off the boil.
I've tried various thicknesses and sizes (I'm above average in girth but nothing massive) but nothing works.
My wife suffers from hemiplegia so can't take the pill and I am ashamed to admit that I got scared at the prospect of a vasectomy and bottled out.
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After a few days of really really trying to keep positive I'm feeling really bad again this evening. Is this something I will just need to learn to live with now? I can't seem to get any enjoyment out of anything anymore.
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I haven't had a period for 3 months could suboxon be to blame ? I've been on Surboxon for 6 months and haven't had a period for 3 months could suboxon be to blame I took a home pregnancy test that said negative however in the past it took a blood test to determine my past pregnancy.
Also what prescription pain meds, anti depressant, and sleep and weight loss medications are safe to take while on Suboxon, if I'm not pregnant of course my pain management Dr took me off all of these medications I've taken for awhile and I really need them I think she is under educated about suboxon also if I am pregnant is it safe to take Suboxon..
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Hey was taking mirtazapine 30 mg for weeks then went on the drink and missed it for 2 and a half days how long does it stay in system anyone know or am a back to start.
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I am maintaining my diet plan, do exercise everyday to make my body and mind strong, also loosing weight. Eating healthy and exercise is the best way of reducing weight. Vegetables, fruits, whole grains, also healthy fats, proteins are essential for our body and mind such as salmon, olive oil, nuts, eggs etc.I use to take Regenon diet pills to stay on diet, they are appetite suppressants that help me to stay on diet plan by controlling hunger. I have lost 12lbs in 2 months and successfully reducing weight..
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I'm sure it's different for everyone but just curious how long everyone stayed at 3cm? Did you go early, normal, late? I knew her head has dropped bc I started peeing more than ever and sometimes only a few drops. Dr said my bags should be packed (they are!) And that my water probably won't gush when and if it breaks bc her head will be blocking. It will be more of a slow trickle.
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Although I have never tried cannabis and don't intend to, my partner of 2 years has a bit of a problem. The problem being he doesn't seem to be able to stop smoking the stuff even though I am very against drugs and have threatened to leave him. We both know the drug is not physically addictive, yet he seems to try and convince me he can't resist it. He stopped for 2 weeks but the minute he was away from me he did it again. My partner knows all the long term side effects the drug can have so I can't understand why he keeps going back to it. He also knows I plan on starting a family in 2 years and because of his addiction, it could leave him not able to have children which is another reason I can't understand why he continues. I have no problem with drug users as long as they're not a loved one or friend so i'm not making judgement on anyone else. My partner has "tried" and "promised" not to smoke it plenty of times in the past and he keeps breaking these promises. It's got to the point where I don't trust him anymore and hate him going out incase he does it again. I've threatened him too many times with me leaving if he does it again, that it goes right over his head. If anyone has any advice, any at all, it would be greatly appreciated.
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I had an novasure ablation done in 2010 and have not had a menstrual cycle since however I have had a chemical pregnancy. I would like to know how to rebuild the lining in my uterus to stay pregnant.
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9 years after 2 cardiac stents angina pain has returned. Doctor doubled my dose of Bisoprolol from 2.5 to 5 now I find my libido has gone from 50% to zero, no erection anymore, is this common, any way around it ?
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