Herpes :: Risk Assessment - Oral Going Both Ways
Feb 3, 2015
So, 13 days ago I had an unprotected sexual encounter with a family friend. No actual sex but there was genital to genital touching and oral sex going both ways. Since that time I have been a nervous wreck to the point that I'm barely functioning because I have convinced myself I am going to get herpes. I have not had any of the flu like symptoms and no rashes or bumps that are obvious but I am obsessively checking myself multiple times daily. I know I am likely creating most of this anxiety in my head. What ia the likelihood that I was infected and just not showing symptoms yet?
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I know my question may have been asked a million times before but I want to get a first hand assessment of my potential risk with HIV based from the series of events that acquired during that night. I was firm to believe that oral sex is safe - up until I read some articles on the internet. Some websites say it's low-risk. Some say it is moderate risk. I do not know which claim is more true than the other
So how this is my last sexual encounter went:
- So I met guys
- I did brush my teeth lightly.
- We basically did give and receive oral sex. No anal sex was done .
- One of the two guys did finger me.
- The whole act last around 30 - 40 minutes
- he ejaculated 5-10 minutes after through masturbation. He "unleashed" it in my legs or in my chest.
- About a minute or two, I gargled water
- We had a small talk after the deed. I was kind of hesitant to believe that he was negative although that's what he did told me. Aside from that, he told me that what we did was a low-risk activity.
Now for my questions:
- Let' say he was indeed positive, what are the chances of him passing the virus on this one time incident?
- From what I have read over at the internet, saliva has a capability to deactivate the virus once any fluid comes contact to it. Is this accurate? Does brushing one's teeth lessen this saliva's capability?
- Is pre-ejaculate just as infectious as semen or blood?
- Would brushing my teeth before or after the act really create cuts/bleeds deep enough that some pre-ejaculate may come in contact with my bloodstream?
- What about deep throat oral sex. What are the risks say he had pre-ejaculate if I was doing it to him?
- Let's also assume that he had a soaring viral load, will this affect my chances? Again, some websites argue that the higher the VL, the higher the risk one is exposed to.
- What are your thoughts about fingering. Is this safer than say, oral and anal sex?
- where I live we have Rapid ICT for testing. How conclusive is it on 6, 8, 10, 12 weeks of testing? Should I be tested after 12 weeks for it to be definitely conclusive or 12 weeks is more than enough?
I know that the only way to know my status is to get tested. It was only been six weeks since the act happened and my anxiety has been killing me to death regarding this incident. I do not want to be the first person documented to have contracted the disease through oral sex.
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I regrettably had multiple unprotected possible exposures to HSV-2 with a guy i was seeing at the time, i do not know his status at all and we are not in contact anymore. I have only ever dated 1 guy before him and that was a long term relationship. We were both each others firsts so we were positive we didn't have anything. After we broke up i ended up seeing this new guy. I would confider him promiscuous, he told me he's had 15-20 partners so far. He's 24 and I'm 21. The last time i saw him was at the end of November and I'm really worried that i might have gotten asymptomatic genital herpes from him. I have never had a cold sore and have not observed any signs/symptoms thus far. I never noticed any on him either when i was seeing him.
I also got tested for other STDS and everything was negative and conclusive. I thought i could move on but now I'm so nervous, i don't know what to do and i feel terrible for even having sex with someone in the first place so fast. What are my chances? I wanted to get tested but turns out they don't do type specific testing in Ontario.
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I contracted HSV1 genitally 16 months ago from someone who was not aware that cold sores were a manifestation of herpes. I've not been sexually active since, but recently met a guy who I disclosed to because things were clearly going to get more intimate. He's been very understanding and accepting, but obviously nervous too. He was tested after I told him about my situation and definitely does not have anything. Last night I gave him oral, but want reassurance that he will not contract HSV1 through oral sex. Of course today he is super nervous and sees difference on his penis and is generally paranoid. I am going to have a face to face with him, but want to be as knowledgeable as possible and quite frankly its confusing. Some places I read that it can't be transmitted if i give oral because i have it genitally. Other places it seems anything is fair game as far as transmitting. Does anyone have information from a reputable source regarding the safety of my giving oral or the transmission rates of any sexual acts?
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28 days ago I had sex with a female CSW. I'm male. Oral then vaginal then oral again. Used one condom for first oral and the vaginal (which, by the way, was extremely short-lived). A second condom for second oral. Both condoms were on before and after and remained intact. No obvious tears, rips, breakages, etc. Most concerned about the vaginal sex. As I said, it was protected, but I can't stop thinking about "what ifs." Also as I said, the condom was on when I inserted and when I pulled out. I don't think it slipped (I'd have noticed, yes?). And, as I also said, it was intact after.
Oraquick in-home tests were negative at 21 and 24 days post-exposure (if you can call it an exposure). I plan on testing again this week (now that I'm four-weeks down the track).
I understand symptoms are not diagnostic, but I have had a few: white tongue (from about 2 weeks after it), maybe a rash on my face and small parts of my thigh but not sure (from about 3 weeks after it). No fever. No sore throat. Nothing else.
What do you think? Was this a no risk situation? How much weight can I put on these negative test results (even if it wasn't no risk)?
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i was in a relationship with a guy and we had unprotected sex (vaginal) a few times. when we broke up i found out he was a lot more promiscuous than i initially believed. i was tested for everything 10 weeks after our last unprotected vaginal sex. everything including HIV came back negative. i had however performed oral sex on him without ejaculation one time after last having sex. that would have put me 3 weeks out from that for my HIV test. i don't know if i had a 4th or 3rd generation but i called my dr and she said if i had HIV it would have shown up. i gave her all the details as well. she said i could come back next year for another test if i was still concerned so that made me nervous she had no idea what she was talking about because everything i've seen says 3 months is conclusive with most people showing positive by 6 weeks. i do plan to be tested one more time bc i have severe anxiety over this and its the only thing that will put my mind at rest but until i can get in for another appointment here are my questions:
1. my 10 week negative is a good indicator i did not contract HIV from the unprotected vaginal episodes correct? i know not technically conclusive until 12 weeks but everything i've read says that is HIGHLY unlikely to change
2. when i performed oral on him i had had a tonsillectomy 6 weeks prior. my throat was healed as far as i remember. i do have bleeding gums occasionally. no sores or STDs. does that increase my chances from oral? i know the stance here is no risk, did not know if the previous tonsillectomy would change that.
also i've asked him many times if he was free of STDs mainly HIV and he swears he is clean but i doubt he has been tested anytime soon. i do know he use to give plasma on a regular basis, not sure if he still does that since we are no longer in contact.
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1. I had a HIV test done that came back negative. Not sure which one but I had blood drawn and found out my results around an hour or so. Any clue what gen that is?
2. With that test is it safe to assume anything I did 8 weeks previously to have gotten HIV May not show up but anything 8 weeks and on would be conclusive?
3. My only exposure in the past 8 weeks was unprotected oral, 25 days before the test in the window period, with a woman (both ways) whom I had done this act with multiple times before in the past year. Is this a concern?
4. Do I need to re-test based on this information?
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I had unprotected sex with a female of unknown status. (i'm male) it was a one time occurrence. I went in and had an RNA test at 10 days which came back negative and a antibody test at 26 days which came back negative. How confident can I be in those results? It seems that 3 months is the mark but there is some updated news that findings can be given with high confidence earlier than that.
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I had a small risk with a high risk woman. There was nothing that happened but a little fingering on the surface level (nothing deep) but my finger had a 2 mm sore/abrasion on it (surface as the type you get when you scrape your knee). The cut had happened about 20 hours before. I immediately stopped when I remember after three seconds.
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2 days ago, I had protected vaginal sex with an escort. She also gave me protected BJ, but she licked my testicles as well which were not covered.
The girl had a lot of "old' bumbles in her back and cheeks as if they were teenage acne marks, but nothing at all down there and nothing at all around her lips. Therefore, I didn't care about them and still kissed her in her back and kissed her in her lips and cheek.
After one hour I felt kind of dizzy and my throat started to soar a little bit. Now, my throat started to hurt me again (very very mild) with a little bit drowsiness.
I'm really worried that I could've gotten something from her
What are my risks of getting any STDs? and what are they?
Thanks in advance
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Got a handjob at asian massage parlor week ago. Concerned specifically about hiv as well as other stds.
My worries lie on possibility of masseuse having a cut on her hand, vaginal fluids or semen from a past customer coming into contact/crossing with my urethra as she performed the handjob. My confusion is that i read that urethra is one of the modes of transmission but when this question has been asked on dr. And hiv forums they say no risk, no need for testing and very low risk of stds. What is the difference between unprotected vaginal/anal and hanjob where the urethra is concerned or any small cuts, nicks, etc. On either participant? Thank you so much for you help in this matter as i eagerly await your expertise. Again specifically if fresh blood from a cut on hand made direct contact with the urethra (top of penis) is there a risk and why? Or why not?
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I had a risky encounter with high risk girl 7.7 years ago which looked protected as I wore two condoms and one condom seems to have broke and second one looked intact, since then I didn't had sex, I recently fell in love with one girl and we did a frottage followed by heavy deep kissing and which was then followed by oral sex on her ,
I guess during the process of our deep kissing she probably might have bit my tongue a little and in the process of lovemaking I didn't realised that.
After I performed oral sex I realised..there might be some blood on my tongue which might facilitate HIV infection to her, Although I myself don't know whether I am infected with HIV, but with the assumption I am HIV infected , is it possible she can get HIV infected from these route??...it's been eight months I am avoiding to be intimate with her and been total paranoid about HIV infection for her.
After exactly 22 days post that incident ,she was down with bad sore throat, chills, lost weight a little bit.
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Recently found out that I have genital herpes. It's scaring me because I'm a lesbian and I feel like I will never be able to have sex again. I have a couple of questions.
I'm in a relationship with a woman, would she contract herpes by giving me oral sex when I don't have an "outbreak"? Can she contract the virus orally?
What's are the risks and probabilities?
Can you have herpes 1 in your genitals or is it only herpes 2 in your genitals. What does this really mean?
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I had unprotected oral sex with a CSW . what are my risks ?Do i need to test?
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I met a csw at a Vegas hotel bar and took her to room. Asked her twice if she was clean and she said she gets tested regularly.
- she cleaned her genitals with wet towel and soap and asked me to do same.
- she asked me to put condom and performed oral for 5-10 minutes
- she asked me to get on top and have sex. At this point I was nervous: penetrated once for 5 seconds and again for 5-10 seconds and then stopped. Lost erection and asked her to leave
- after she left I jerked off with same condom, there was no leak and i put water to make sure and no leak
Question: she gave me condom from her car. So I am not sure for how long it was sitting in her car but it wasn't expired. It was latex lubricated condom. Is there any risk with using a condom that was in her car. It was sealed
I used same condom for oral and brief vaginal. Is there a risk?
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what are the chances to contract Hiv with unprotected Oral sex. I'm the male receiver of the oral.
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I'm male in early 30's I have only one time unprotected oral sex with a sex worker few days ago , she kissed may penis , I ejaculated in her mouth. I did not know she have mouth ulcers or not or if she's HIV positive. After I wash my penis with water.Should i be worried or require any HIV / STD tests ? if yes then when ?
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I lived in indonesia.. last week i was exposed to one kiss from the commercial massage lady to my head of penis. is it considered oral sex? however, two days later, i am shocked there is redness in my head of penis, went to my GP and dermatologists, they said is ok . dermatologists take sample and Gp said it is only because of maybe her nail. I was so scared because if it is because her nail , then it is possible at the time my penis is bleeding.How much is my risk from her one kiss to my penis while it is bleeding? Thank you so much for the answer. i feel like killing myself as i have no one to talk to
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I am a 23 year old guy...Last night I hooked up with a prostitute...I used condom while intercourse and I did unprotected oral to her for 5 to 10 minutes..This is my first time sex experience ever..i am very much worried that i may contracted HIV...are there any possibilities for getting HIV?
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I'm a 23 year old female who received oral sex from someone whose HIV status is unknown. I am very scared that I could have contracted HIV. The guy told me that I shouldn't worry, and he thinks that he is clear, but I know that many don't know they have HIV.. He just got out of a 6-year relationship, though.
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recently I received a bj from a guy I know...is that no risk for hiv also is oraquick hiv test a good test to detect hiv?
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