Alcoholism :: Dealing With An Alcoholic Boyfriend
Sep 14, 2012
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now, and we are both 18. When we first started dating i knew he had a drinking problem before because he went to rehab. When we first started dating everything was great he didn't drink for the first two months of our relationship. When he did start drinking we drank casually, i thought everything is okay because he would only drink with me. But then he started drinking with old friends that he would drink heavily with. I thought everything would be okay but then he started freaking out on his parents and his anger was out of control. I told him that i don't think i could deal with any of this right now and he said he would stop drinking. which only lasted about a week. he was never mean to me, but he did threaten me saying if i was to break up with him he would kill himself. he just recently went to rehab and said he isn't coming back but he still wants to be together. i love him and care about him alot but not being able to see him kills me and i don't know how to deal with it. when i told him one night that i cant do it, the whole not seeing him thing he got very emotional. This is my first real serious relationship and i just need some advice on what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to because no one understands how i feel.
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Some days I read this page and I think...wow...all these people are drinking and they are functioning! I can drink and function anymore. I become a statue on the couch with the beer not very far from me and at least 2 packs of cigs.
I used to be able to function when I was drinking when I was younger...but what I believe happened to ME...was I discovered the "morning" drink about 15 years ago.
About 15 years ago...after a family cookout...I felt soooo sick from drinking all day the day before....I was probably on line and learned about the "hair of the dog". And I drove back to my brother in laws house...and raided the beer that was left outside in the cooler.
I started drinking that day..and because I was younger...I felt so much better after the first drink...I kept going and I thought....I had the cure for a hangover!
I was working back then so only drank at night during the week and didn't have those horrible hangovers in the mornings...but on weekends...I started drinking in the a.m. if I had drank too much on a Friday night to cure the blurry vision, the awful taste in mouth, that dragging feeling.
This pattern led me to drinking continuously all weekend from morning to night...and that is when my alcoholism took a serious turn for the worst.
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I'm 34 years old and have been drinking socially since I was about 17. For about the last 6 years I have been drinking more heavily. An average week night 3 pints, but often 4 maybe 5. On a very good night just 2. At the weekends I would have 4-6 pints Friday, Saturday, Sunday, but its sometimes hits 9, that's without going on a night out. So, on average, about 30 pints. I also suffer with anxiety, and recently its been really bad. The anxiety is horrible, I feel panicked, overwhelmed and nervous about things that I should be happy about, I get strong feelings of guilt from things I've done in the past that, whilst it was wrong to do these things, it doesn't really matter to anyone. I feel like I cant lie in case I feel guilty after so I end up owning up to stupid things, such as spending a tenna in the betting shop. Its worse after drinking, so I drink more to help ease it, then feel like rubbish the next day so I drink again, then I'm in a vicious circle. I do enjoy a drink but most of the time I drink its unnecessary and to make myself feel better and calm down the anxiety. Its now got to the point where I've had enough of feeling like this so I have decided to cut down, and hopefully stop drinking altogether. I went 12 days a few weeks ago and was starting to feel better halfway through, but felt a bit flat and fed up. I went 5 days last week and the same thing happened. This week I have gone 3 days and so far I feel terrible, worse than ever, its not easing off like it usually does. The last two nights I've not slept, I keep twitching and jumping in the night. My hands feel like I have constant pins and needles and I feel dizzy. As well as the usual anxiety feelings. I'm going on holiday Saturday and I'm worried about being stuck on the plane for 2 hours, and I get anxious about being with my girlfriend who I love very much, for a few days, its ridiculous! She knows how I feel and is supportive, so is my mum, so I do have people to speak to. The doctor gave beta blockers yesterday but I don't like taking pills and worried it will make me feel worse. I know I'm not the only one who is like this and I know the booze is probably the reason why I'm like this, but how long is it going to last and what if its not the booze? Does anyone have any advice?
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I have been smoking cannabis since i was 14 and am now nearly 19. even though i have not smoked for as many years as others here i can relate to a lot of the points they are making. Cannabis is a great drug when you first start smoking it but in later years i have found myself on edge whenever i haven't had a spliff. However i find after 3 days of going without a spliff it gets much easier.
Since starting university this year i have met a lot of people that do not smoke cannabis and never would, this has opened my mind in a huge way as before i came here i was in a group of friends where everyone smoked it. These days i do feel that cannabis detaches me from the world and it doesn't help in social situations at all. finding a girlfriend is becoming increasing difficult as i spend few hours of my life not stoned. The problem is i do need some escapism from this reality and i can't find it at the bottom of a bottle. For some people drinking is great but i would choose weed any day over alcohol. Friends of mine that have given up cannabis have become full blown alcoholics, i don't think i could face going down that route. Cannabis use does concern me a lot and i think i am on the way to giving it up altogether. Besides the effects are so insignificant these days compared to what it use to be when i was 14. Its always hard though when you know your friend downstairs has just picked up a fresh eighth. I am making a committed effort to give it up altogether as my chemistry course is too difficult for me to go on smoking daily. Lets just hope my tobacco consumption doesn't double as a result.
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I recently started dating this guy about a month ago. We did oral sex for the first time last weekend and he literally only lasted probably 30 seconds. I gave him oral a couple more times the next few days and the same thing happened. He told me he usually lasts 15-20 minutes when someone's giving him oral. Then, earlier this week we had sex for the first time. The same problem arose and he came within 30-40 seconds. He was really embarrassed and said he never really has that problem. I was with him last night and he didn't try to initiate sex or anything after we went to bed. In the morning, I really wanted to do it, but he wasn't taking any of my hints and didn't seem like he wanted to. I guess he realized that I really wanted to do it this morning so he gave in and only lasted no more than 40 seconds again. He was very upset and embarrassed. While we were doing it he was actually shaking. It doesn't bother me that he can't last very long, it just bothers me that it really bothers him. I don't want to keep embarrassing him and make him feel bad when we have sex, but I feel like us having sex more often is the only way it can really get better. Can anyone tell me why he does this or what I can do to make him not feel bad when it happens.
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I am in a relationship for around a year now. Almost overtime we had sex I had some smelly whitish or not colored discharge for a few days. Sometimes we didn't have sex at all and healed by itself and sometimes it took a while till it goes away completely. Also in the beginning of our relationship I had some issues with my period. I was having trouble with having it and once I didn't get my period for almost 3 months. My doctor didn't do any tests and gave me a birth control pill. It still didn't work and she gave a more powerful one. Now I have my periods on time every month for 6 months.
Last week my boyfriend suddenly had a big pain and burn in his penis when we had sex after 3 weeks without having sex. Then he started getting discharge from his penis. Is it possible that I had gonorrhea all the time but he didn't have symptoms and healed by himself. He was working on his bachelor degree and he was completely out of shape because of that. Is there any chance that he had the symptoms for the first time ever this week because his immune system got weak or something. I am gonna have a test for fertility because our doctor told us that if I had it all the time, there is a high chance that I might got barren.
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I am a mature adult female, I drink heavily. I'm a functioning alcoholic. I do not drink before work or when I have an appointment. But after I'm done for the day I often drink to the point where I cannot remember the next day. I have developed a tremor, that's an easy way of saying it, I shake during the day. Even after I've had nothing to drink for 4 or 5 days it persists. This is something that I noticed with my mother, who was also a functioning alcoholic later on in her life. I noticed it later on in her life. I'd like to know, is this a given for alcoholics or should I be looking for a deeper meaning?
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I have lived with my partner for the past 4 years and when I met him he liked a drink, but at the time, it seemed just sociably. As the relationship progressed, so did his drinking, if we were out socially he would end up so drunk and quite embarrassing on a number of occasions. The drinking stepped up a notch when we bought our own place and for the past 3 years it has become a problem within the home more times than I care to mention, going from barely being able to speak, not wanting to do anything unless there was alcohol involved in the activity, making promises and reneging on them, wetting the bed, starting arguments when there was nothing to argue about, the culmination of this behaviour has been that 2 weeks ago he moved into the spare bedroom where he drank a bottle of vodka every night on his own, only to pop downstairs to start an arguement with my sons or me. I told him I wanted out, house to go on the market and go our separate ways. With that he made an appointment to see his doctor, who in turn said if he continues drinking what he drinks, he will be lucky to live beyond another 4 years... he is only 40 years old. He has confessed to me since the visit to the doctors that he's always drunk more than he should and has struggled with alcohol for the past 20 odd years. He has moved to his parents to start his detox and has to go back to the doctors in two weeks to let him know progress there has been, also he's been to a meeting with Inclusion, previously Homer, it was just an initial chat, they have given him some material to look through. He will go through an assessment following on from the next doctors appointment, and will then be assigned a key worker who he can chat to and will support him. I suppose what I want to know is how I'm supposed to behave towards him, whilst I still have feelings for him, I'm not sure I want to sign up to be with him forever as I just can't believe he will never touch a drop again. He's emailing me saying he still loves me and wants to get married when he's sober, but what's the reality of that? Do I tell him the truth that I can't stay with him or do I give him time to start the road to recovery without any stress from me?
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I am a 48 year old man and on average i drink about 10 bottles of wine a week. i feel fine look fine & am very healthy, but in gov stats i'm an alcoholic.
Why is this, i work abroad a lot (Spain) where wine consumption is the norm.
I exercise 5hrs a week my weight in 11 to 11 1/2 stone. If i drink white or rose wine i make them spritzers 3rd sparkling water, 3rd wine & a 3rd ice, if i drink red then i drink a glass of still water with each glass. I also drink good beer maybe 20 to 30 bottles instead of wine for 3 days a week & drink the same amount of water with each bottle, i never have a hangover, feel sluggish. i don't eat junk food drink tea or coffee or popfizz drinks i only eat freash foods no packets or takeaways i make my own. So tell me is my lifestyle wrong?
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Boyfriend pulled out about 5 minutes before he came, I had my period two weeks later as normal but a few days ago (2 weeks or so after my period) my stomach started cramping up and it's looking bigger. Is this just because I've been eating more or is pregnancy more likely?
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Please help! My boyfriend and i used the pull out method. But when he pull out some of his semen got in my clit can i get pregnant?
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3 days ago, I gave my boyfriend oral after we ate some food but he did not cum, it was for 1-2 min. I could not tell if he had pre-cum. I kissed him for 5 seconds and then he gave me oral. He did not insert his tongue inside me but went near my vagina but mostly on my clitoris. Since 2 days ago, I keep having brown discharge, and today it's still going but it looks more like old blood because there's some clots (that I usually get on my period but now it's brown, not red). My period is due in about 9 days according to my calendar. I also have anxiety and I worry too much so am I wrong to think this and that there's no way I could be pregnant? Or is there a chance? I know that I get brown discharge before my period sometimes but not always-- it is just weird to me because it is supposed to come 9 days later. I'm just scared that it is implantation bleeding or something. I read that implantation occurs a week or so after conception. We have not engaged in actual penetrative sexual intercourse and this was the first time we had oral sex. I know that there are cases wherein there was no penetrative sex but pregnancy occurred. My question is NOT can I get pregnant from giving/receiving oral sex. The bottom line question is: Could I be pregnant if I KISSED my boyfriend after giving him oral (with possible pre-cum as he did not ejaculate) and then him giving me oral?
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This is a bit lengthy so I will try to shorten it the best I can. Please note that this is dire. About ten months ago my boyfriend and I rekindled our friendship and we ended up being together. At first, before we started dating he was into drinking and smoking (weed), but I refused to date anyone who has done those things because I personally couldn't handle being around stressful environments, (I am diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar 1).
So, he claimed he came to stop smoking and drinking if it meant us being together. Through the months, we had terrible, terrible fights - usually I blamed myself because I become manic on occasion - but as of just a week ago he's been acting even far more stranger. We usually never go anywhere without the other, but he started talking to a guy friend at work he met no longer than five days ago and he was invited to a party. He told me he was going to go whether I wanted him too or not, so I asked if I could go along and he was fine with it but demanding I act appropriate. (Which I am not all that bad around public).
Before we went we got into a fight, he shouted at me that he never got alone time and I asked if he'd choose his new friend over me. He said, he's going to the party no matter what and I was going to leave...But then he broke down in tears. Later on that night, he told me he wanted me to accept him for himself. He claimed that his true self was the guy he was before dating me, the one who was drinking and smoking. He said he didn't need to drink but he missed the smoking. That he needs it in order to keep positive and stress free so he doesn't yell at me. Breaking every moral I had, I agreed to let him do it - we went home so he can go smoke but I didn't want to have to see it so I tried to leave. He came to me before I left and said he didn't do it and he was sorry. Sorry that he choose the party over me and sorry for yelling at me and making me cry. He claimed he didn't know what he was doing or why.
Eventually through the week, he promised he wouldn't do it again until yesterday. He called me after work and said he needed to go to his friends house to say goodbye because he was moving. He demanded I stay home. I wanted to go with, I was already going through a manic episode and needed, yes, need, to be watched over. (if left alone I can get a little suicidal, not meaning too.) He refused to let me go. My friend, whose my other caretaker, came over to find me at a complete distraught. She was angry and took me over to his house just in time to catch him before he was going to leave.
When he saw me, he burst into tears, saying he was sorry but he needed to tell me something; that he had been still smoking through the entire relationship. He claimed he was trying to stop the whole time, that at first he was only taking a puff once to twice every week until recently where he went to once every week and that every time we got into a fight was because he hadn't take a recent puff. He said that the recent fights we got into were because he was scared of telling me about his smoking and how he didn't quit while the entire time I thought he had. He broke down and is begging for my help, thinking I can help him through but I have no idea HOW too.
I suffer from severe manic episodes, and if I am unlucky, psychotic ones also. We have little to no money at all, even for me to go see a psychiatrist for the meds I need for my mental conditions. I will not leave him...but I so desperately need help to help him.
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