Abuse By Proxy - Emotional Blackmail
Sep 14, 2015
This is often called emotional blackmail to A person who has been abusive to you draws in another person who totally sides with them and heaps even more abuse on you They often go to family members or friends or they get attorneys to heap even more abuse on you This happened to me and I did see some of it coming bc I happened upon a book about emotional blackmail But I totally underestimated how abusive other people they went to could be And I was in a very vulnerable situation post accident I want to warn others about this bc it makes things even worse and it puts you in a lot more danger It is like mobbing or a gang where they increase the abuse using their brother or whoever or hire an attorney and lie to the attorney or they may call other authorities on you or even try to claim something criminal Just consider this when you find yourself in an abusive relationship.
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I'm 21 weeks pregnant, ftm, i watched ariana grande on tv performing live and started crying BC she's so pretty and skinny and it's not fair. I'm so emotional right Now it's ridiculous, anyone else?
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I'm 10 weeks pregnant with our first child and I think I've hit the emotional eat everything stage. I can't stop eating I'm like the hungry caterpillar or something, but my husband's in Arizona for work and I'm in Virginia and I just wanted to talk to him so I hop on FB and I see he shared a video about 40 minutes ago so I send him a simple hello message and no response. It just makes me feel like hey pregnant wife should be the first thing you talk to when you get off work considering I'm your wife and pregnant with our baby. I went from so mad that I wanted to punch something to crying am I wrong for feeling this way ?
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I miscarried about four weeks ago. I am still having some spotting and a lot of cramping. My emotions are the hardest part i think. I don't know how to deal with them. I get angry easy, sad easier, and I'm just not happy at all. I was very happy before this happened. I cry whenever I see the pics of the ultrasound in my head. Such a beautiful baby. Just no heart beat. I was 8 weeks along. I'm pretty sure the baby died while i was out milking our cow. I had severe cramping. The next day at the er when i was bleeding the dr said it died within the last 24 hours. I really do blame myself even though logically I know it wasn't my fault. I know the baby was not strong enough or developing properly but I still feel I could have done more to stop it. I don't know how to deal with this loss it hurts a lot still. My heart aches for the child that could have been. What can I do?
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lately i dont know what is going on with me., the other night my husband turned away from me and i felt like my heart broke into a million pieces and i couldnt stop crying. i literally cried all night. i cry for everything., and now i get frustrated really easily. i cant stand anyone. i just wanted to know if it was normal? also my appetite has gone away. everything grosses me out and i end up throwing everything up anyway. help??
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have been on and off Cerazette for last few years and have started with bad anxiety to the point where I stopped taking it but then had horrendous periods and was going dizzy. So I'm scared to come off it but at the same time wondering if it's perimenopause as I'm getting fast heartbeat at night but feel constantly emotional and exhausted and also nervous/ anxious so I'm wondering if anyone else has felt like this on Cerazette?
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I was diagnosed with endometriosis behind uterus Dec 15 had diathermy and put on cerazette Feb 15 however the tablets seem to have been making. Me upset extremely emotional and depressed, the GP has taken me off them for a month. What other options. Are there apart from pill? I'm really worried all the pain will come back as cerazette has kept it all at bay!
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I have been on Mit for a long time now. I was on Prozac but it didn't work. I was on 30mg a day, before bed. Now im on 45 mg a day before bed.
I don't sleep properly still. I've been diagnosed with severe depression.
The drug makes me very very angry at the slightest thing.
I go nuts and throw things, swear at friends and family.
Things I would never normally do.
However, there has been one upside.
4 days ago, I felt happy. After 4 months of not feeling a single emotion except anger and pain, I felt happy. I cried, I was so shocked.
I had forgotten what happiness felt like. And when I felt it, I didn't know what to do. It almost hurt. So I just cried.
But the point is that I was happy. For the first time in months. Keep taking the pills. They make you feel something.
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I noticed a lump in my neck around 4-5 months ago. I ignored it for a month (stupid I know) and then went to the doctor who suspected thyroid goitre and sent me for blood tests, ultrasound scan and referred me to a specialist. Following a thyroid uptake test the consultant confirmed that I have a multi-nodular toxic thyroid goitre and am hyperthyroid.
When I went to the doctors originally I told them that my only symptom was the lump. However, I now realise that the anxiety / irritability, tiredness / lethargy that I'd put down to being stressed at work are probably actually related to my thyroid. It's also slightly depressing that the weight that I thought I'd lost through my sensible eating efforts is probably thanks to a faulty thyroid gland. It never occurred to me to mention heat intolerance to the doctor either - I thought that was just me.
I started on a lowish (10mg) dose of carbimazole 3 days ago. Since then all of my symptoms have been exaggerated and I have never felt so tired, lightheaded and emotional / weepy.
I found this forum this morning and it's a comfort to see on this forum that I'm not alone and my experience isn't that uncommon. I just wouldn't have expected the medication to have such an effect in this space of time. Nobody warned me!
My husband and I wanted to start trying for a family but the consultant has told me I shouldn't until my thyroid is under control. Early menopause runs in my family. I have been advised that the best course of action is radioiodine treatment as soon as possible or a partial thyroidectomy. The choice is mine. I'm thinking of Radioiodine treatment but am worried about long term impacts.
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I've been on mirtazapine for about 3/4 weeks now. When I first took them I had extreme tiredness.. Song with muscle aches and heart palpitations. After a week or so these symptoms seemed to go (minus the tiredness). These past three days I've been feeling dizzy constantly. Not so much dizzy.. More like off balance, I've also had problems with my visions, such as seeing little black floaters.. I know dizziness is a side effect but I didn't realise symptoms could kick in after two weeks. I've also been feeling more emotional and suicidal and I'm not quite sure why...
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I had my long-anticipated consult with a Pain Management doctor yesterday (Monday 1/27) It went reasonably well, though as expected we both have HEAVY accents, with his being Egyptian and my being SOUTHERN=) We had some issues understanding each other, but nothing we can't work through. I was "happy" to find that I had nothing to prove to him because my pain is well documented (partly due to my OCD) through my medical records and subsequent reports on various treatments. He had no interest in repeating any of the modalities that I have already tried with no success. That, too was well documented, including but not limited to Injections, PT, TENS, Biofeedback, Cognitive Therapy, Psychotherapy (counseling). He seemed "baffled" that I am "still standing" with the extensive problems that I have. He said it was most helpful that I have seen specialists in all fields of expertise pertaining to my pain, to rule out the need for further surgeries and treatments.
Now, we go forward with pain management. There is an IRONY here. I have finally found a doctor who will help me to "manage" my pain through medication. However, as of January 2014 my insurance will not cover medication. Believe me, I'm not complaining, as I realize I am fortunate to have insurance period, in today's environment. It just horrifies me to know that I cannot afford most of the medications that a PMD would prescribe for me.
He has no problem prescribing the Fentanyl patch for me, with my gastric/absorption issues. However, without further research into a generic option (which will still be expensive) I don't feel that I can afford that. I used the patch successfully in 2005-2006, but I had excellent insurance with $25 script co-pay. We discussed that Morphine has helped me, but he says that, too is extremely expensive. He suggests Methadone for not only its similarities to Morphine, but also its steady release once established. I must confess I freaked out (just a teeny bit) because I asked him if that was like the drug on "Breaking Bad". Yea...He thought I was silly, too. He chuckled and said "Funny you think I prescribe that".
He suggests that if I can't afford the patch (I can't ) then let's try the Methadone, starting with 5 mg twice daily with the option to increase if necessary. He wants to try one medication at a time (I agree) so that he can determine it's effectiveness vs. multiple meds causing multiple side effects. He explained that he will work with me until I can achieve an acceptable level of pain relief, by seeing me once per month. WHEN, not IF...say hallelujah...we reach success, he will start seeing me every 3 months. I can certainly do THAT.
I have concerns before filling the Methadone script and starting to take it. I'm hopeful that some of you may be able to share your experience. Is it effective for pain relief? Is it sedating or is it mood-elevating? I cannot cope with sedative effects because my career is demanding that I am alert and on my game at all times. I could benefit from my "mood" being elevated, as these past months of "fighting" for help have really dragged me through the depths of Hell. I take medication for anxiety and depression, but they're not magic pills...I guess I will always battle those demons. I just want to be very selective and careful to avoid any pain medication that may exacerbate my emotional issues.
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Have done some shorter stints of CBT/psychotherapy for depression and anxiety in the past which really helped at the time but never really found I got to "get to the root of my problem" and shift it permanently. At the moment, I am not overly depressed or anxious but I felt that perhaps some EFT or even hypnotherapy could help me deal with some underlying recurrent insecurities.
Just a little apprehensive because of the lack of evidence regarding the effectiveness of this technique so I wondered if anyone has ever tried EFT or hypnotherapy and could advise/give a little insight into how effective/not effective they felt it was?
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I was taking Levora birth control and increasingly had mood swings, depression, etc. the longer I took it. After four months I decided I am just not the same person on it and my symptoms are very evident to those around me (not to mention the increased acne and water weight!) My doctor suggested the NuvaRing as it is a different way that hormones are released into your body. Has anyone struggled with emotional and mental symptoms on the pill and switched to NuvaRing and had success?
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My symptoms are: i've been very moody, emotional, tired, nauseous, loss of appetite, bloated, my stomach feels sensitive.
I'm a diabetic and my sugar has been fine.
I'm on Yasmin but accidental skipped 4 tablets last week.
Could i be pregnant or just tired?
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I'm really struggling at the moment i have been dependant on laxatives for years and made a decision to stop taking them 6 months ago! since that day i have gained 2 stone i hardly ever go to the toilet and i'm so depressed! the bloating is unbearable i can't cope anymore i feel like a can't go on like this any more it's too much, my aunt suggested maybe taking laxatives on the the weekend just to keep things moving and to take only senokot not dulcolax ( i was taking 12 a day before i stopped).
I'm really running out of ideas i have tried everything i can i really have, does anyone take laxatives on a weekly basis just to keep things moving?
does it help?
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Emotional. I ache.
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To everyone who has given me support and advice, I have not insufflated any of my pills since Wednesday. I had planned to do my pills intranasally for the last time Tuesday, and start the withdrawal process Wednesday, but I had too many necessary errands Wednesday, so Thursday, yesterday, was my first day not insufflating my pills. I have only gotten two hours of sleep, can't think straight, am not even driving, have the chills, fever (and then my temp goes below normal), sweating, cold and hot, very loose bowels, but so far no serious nausea or vomiting. I am experiencing the burning in my neck, arms and upper back (which may be a symptom unique to me due to my history with shingles?). Though the burning may be a common withdrawal symptom, I don't know. I definitely have insomnia. I have been taking Benadryl and Tylenol PM for the cold symptoms. So far, I haven't gotten the shingles again. I did get some little blisters on the fingerprint side of my index finger, and other skin reaction on my hands, like stress--induced eczema. Stress causes skin reactions on me, like hives, etc. I know I'm a lightweight, and others may handle this better--after all I am swallowing three pills a day, I didn't go cold turkey, like others, but I know my body and knew I wouldn't be safe to even drive.
I got a cervical steroid epidural Monday, which I thought would help, and it does help big-time with pain. However, where the steroid injections usually trigger a slight manic reaction with me (I have been diagnosed "hypomanic" and "manic depressives manic type" and "ADHD, hyperactive, impulsive type" and PTSD) this time the injection seemed to put me in a mixed state. I was really, really agitated and anxious, to the point I thought I might need to get some anti-anxiety medication. My cousin brought over a Xanax and a joint, and a bottle of vodka. For some reason, I just don't feel like adding more chemicals to my poor brain. And since I haven't wanted a cigarette since I quit insufflating pills, I slapped a nicotine patch on Thursday, and haven't smoked a cigarette either. I want to remember all of this torture so I am never tempted to insufflate another pill. All the years my pharmacy gave me the Endo tamper resistant silicone encased Opana pills I was never tempted to try the tedious procedure of preparing them for insufflation which I read about online. People actually go thru a lot of work to insufflate or even inject the tamper resistant Opanas. I read about a lung disease from doing so, and a blood disease from injecting them. And what I read horrified me. Then, within a matter of months of receiving the generic Opanas, oxymorphone pills, I started insufflating them. I was in a lot of pain, knew insufflation raised the 10% bioavailability significantly, so I did it, telling myself just this one time. I am no different than the other people trying to relieve their pain. I have to be honest with myself. I have displayed addictive behavior, and played fast and loose with my life. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that doing pills intranasally that are made to be swallowed puts one at risk for lung infection or worse. I need to be honest with myself, address my addictive behavior, and not sweep it under the denial rug (so to speak). If members of my immediate family knew, I would be in a treatment center so fast my head would spin. As VICourageous or Vic595 said: "We are only as sick as our darkest secrets" and I remember that term from AA. Also, I thank Gnarly_1 and Vic595 for pointing out I had crossed the line from dependence onto addiction when I started insufflating my pills. I am sure I would still be telling myself I am only dependent on my pills and they just crushed themselves and flew up my nose, because they could, and it helped my pain more. Yeah, love myself to death, literally.
I know I will feel worse before I feel better, but I am doing the right thing. I can't think straight enough now to quote Gnarly_1, but he said something about getting completely off pain medication to assess my real pain level, etc. and I will be re-reading that too. I know I have been rambling. My head is hurting, but this discomfort won't kill me like the path I was on. Thank all of you. God sent me to Med-Help. Maybe some day when I can think clearly I will be able to help someone else too. I will be back.
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I have used hydrocodone for many years as well as abusing them. I lay in bed all night and most of the day. I plan on getting off and will be doing so with the help of my doctors. I gave my parents my medication so I wont abuse them. I just had carpal tunnel and bone fusion surgery. I was given percocets for pain. I took one and my heart rate is very fast and been so for hours. This has happened recently before when I was abusing. Why is it happening when I only take one and is there concern? When I abused the medication I also had problems with breathing, that is why I gave up control. Im not having problems breathing now but if I have pain and take another I might. What can I do?
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My 24 year old son is on day 4 in rehab for prescription drug abuse (Opiates). He detoxed himself last fall only to relapse 2 months later. Right now he is in a 28 day program but I am very scared that is not long enough. I feel so doomed, everything I read about addiction is so negative about recovery. Right now, all he talks about is how hard this is and that all he thinks about is his next dose of detox meds. He talks about how good the meds he was abusing made him feel. His talk just makes me feel like he will never be able to beat this. Before his addiction he was the sweetest, most sensitive, loving guy you would ever meet. Everyone is drawn to him. I still can't believe these drugs got a hold of him. His brain has been hijacked, literally.
Is there anything anyone can tell me that will give me just a little tiny bit of hope?
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my dad is in hospital at the moment. he has liver cirrhosis and he's in a bad way. i'm trying to find out whether he has a chance of getting back to his old self. he has jaundice his arms have gone really thin. he has had GI tract bleed. a stomach ulcer, swollen stomach and his toxics from his waste are going to his brain. when i've seen him he is just confused or sleeping with his eyes rolled back in his head. any ideas on whether his body could recover for a while or whether this is game over.
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Ok Here's my story. I was an abuser of Percocet Oxycontin for years. Having said that I've always been able to put stuff down when it started getting out of control (like a crack pipe with money still in my wallet!) Even perks, but I would stop, then one day a week, then a couple days a week, then after work every day, then before during and after work and, oops I can't pay my bills at the end of the month. Then I would stop again, the withdrawals hurt but whatever. I finally found something I couldn't stop: the cycle not the actual drug. It was then that my now wife and I decided to get on subs, her on suboxone and me on subutex (I had severe headaches and heartburn on suboxone.) My doctor tried two different antacids to no avail. Finally he put me on just the bup, thank god. Flash forward two years 8 mg three times a day, I don't wanna be a slave to this sh++ any more. My doctor asks "are you still having cravings?" I say "yes I am still having cravings doc." But am I? I don't think so, not for perks, just for those f+++ing subs. Oh I almost forgot, and it's important to my kicking, I fell off a roof and was in a coma for 6 days. They were shooting me up with dilaudid thru a pick line that went directly to my heart. WOHW that was awesome by the by. I kicked subs under sedation, I know this because wife told me how much I was tossing and turning in a coma. So much so that they had to tie me to the bed. So it's time to go home they give me.......perks! I transitioned back to subutex seamlessly though so no problems there. So I crushed and snorted mine, which gives you a lot more bio-availability. Here's what I did: I got down to one 8mg per day FIRST. Stopped snorting mine and switched to sucking on those disgusting strips my wife gets. That was the worst I felt, going from snorting to sublingual. At the height of feeling like doggie do I snorted one to feel better then went back to the strips for like 2 days, feeling fine. Then I just stopped. Now, I have the benefit of being out of work on workers comp from my fall off the roof, which, as I said was important because I could lay around and be lazy for as long as I needed. I don't know if it was the particular way I did it but it wasn't that bad. A few hot flashes, a few chills, one night of restless legs and today I feel ok. I did use benzos to bridge any gaps and before bed (I didn't get much sleep for few nights.) I am feeling aches but I think that's just from being 37 and the subs masking them. So I got down to one, stopped snorting/went sublingual for 2 days, snorted one day, 2 more days sublingual, quit with benzos and 3-4 days on the couch. If it weren't for my back and a little ptsd from falling, which is why I'm on workers comp, I feel I could go back to work and be fine. I walked to the store yesterday, my knees hurt but I mean I think I'm over it. Good luck guys, keep telling yourself it ain't that bad, attitude is everything.
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