Cystocele For 10 Years And Getting Worse

I am a 65 year old female with a grade 3 or 4 cystocele. In the past few days I am having extreme difficulty emptying my bladder. I am freaking out because the issue of surgery rears its ugly head. I do not want surgery in as much as the failure rate if as high as 50% and I would never have mesh because of the ugly hideous complications of using it. Does anybody with this problem have any other ideas? I may try a pessary. I was wondering if there are ways of emptying ones bladder by utilizing certain positions to facilitate urination ( like standing for example). I have had this cystocele for 10 years but not it has obviously gotten worse.